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Tonepoet77
So... I decided to try and add something big to the discussion. And, on my mind lately has been, "How does one stay young at heart?"

I've noticed that, in the shift from college lifestyle to young adulthood, over the past three years, my attitude has changed significantly. Many folks say, "I'll never work in a cubicle,' and yet most do anyway. So, I've been thinking about what delights my soul, what makes the little boy inside shout out and jump up and down in excitement. I'd like to share one of these delights of my soul, and ask the rest of you Apples for yours. smile.gif


Brown County, Indiana, in the fall. There is absolutely nothing like it. I spent so much time in Brown County (known for its hills and for the quaint shopping towns like Nashville and Gnaw Bone that rest in her valleys), while I was growing up, riding horses, chasing girls, staring at the night sky, taking in the fresh air. It has always been a well of renewal for my heart and a place to clear my mind.

I frequently recall so many moments that were made in B.C., such as laying out on a picnic table in the middle of the Horseman's Park in the State Park. Not many people were in camp that week. I picked a spot where no trailers were set up, so there would be no artificial light. The trees are sparse in the campground, so there was no obstruction of the view. A cool fall evening, spent lying on my back, gazing at a gorgeous night sky... I might have been 14 or 15 at the time. My heart was captured by that sky, by that place, by that exact moment - and perhaps that is why it has become a place that my heart delights in.

Many of my favorite memories surround the place... my first very memorable kiss. Running up and down the creeks - what we called creek-stompin' - on my trusted old pony... riding horses at night, clear summer nights, with no flashlight, where the stars and the moon overhead would provide plenty of light once the eyes had adjusted.

Standing on one of the street corners in Nashville was a man named John Franz. He played guitar and song old folk, pop, and love songs from the '50's, '60's, and '70's. He abandoned real life - a job, a wife and kids, whatever passed for normal then - to be a sort of hobo, a man and a guitar, just traveling, seeing, singing. I would spend a good deal of time with him during college. I would just go and sit and here him play for hours, hoping to get one of his many stories. He personified the free spirit of Brown County for me. And now, when I drive down Nashville's streets... I don't see him anymore. Part of me hopes he just moved on... but part of me knows that he, well over 65 years of age and having no health insurance or no means to care for any health concerns, part of me knows he probably fell ill, since the last time I saw him he was not doing well.

And many other memories are tinged with such sadness, memories that pull at the heart-strings. Old people and faces that I loved, gone from my life... a girlfriend here, a childhood best friend there, folks that moved on as I moved on in my life.

I remember skipping classes at I.U. to take my soon to be fiance (and soon to be ex-fiance, as it were wink.gif ) to the park for picnics... just laying out on a blanket, on one of the hillsides in the park, enjoying the view, and more importantly, the good company. It wasn never an escape, but rather a return. The average, ordinary grind is the escape. The woods, with their breezes and birdsong; the hills, with their slopes and valleys and hidden streams; the endless, breath-taking sky, full of more stars than I've ever seen before... all those are home. So when I visit, I really, truly, just return.


So... how about you? What keeps you a little young at heart?
MusykLvr
young at heart, eh?

well, i don't think it's the care bear lunch box or the excitement over the pink phone or the kool-aid wallet or playing on the swing set when walking through a park.

i don't know if it is anything that i *do* persay. more that what i do stems from feeling young at heart.

i am thinking of the commercials...verb, just do it.

so, to keep young at heart i am living, laughing, loving, writing, listening, caring, playing, thinking...

and many other verbs along the way.

somehow, though, i think that the loving and laughing are the two most important things on that list. and i hope to never lose that capacity.
Tonepoet77
QUOTE(MusykLvr @ Oct 6 2005, 12:14 PM)
somehow, though, i think that the loving and laughing are the two most important things on that list.  and i hope to never lose that capacity.
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Amen to that smile.gif
GhostWriter
I don't know how to stay young, but I think this word has something to do with why we get and feel "old"

at·ro·phy
n. pl. at·ro·phies
Pathology. A wasting or decrease in size of a body organ, tissue, or part owing to disease, injury, or lack of use: muscular atrophy of a person affected with paralysis.
A wasting away, deterioration, or diminution: intellectual atrophy.

Use it or lose it...
Trudes
I'm 59.
I'm pretty sure that's older than all of you. Maybe even older than your parents.
But my physical age and my mental age I consider to be two different things.

I think I understand what you mean when you say 'Young at Heart', TP.

(But I don't always consider youth to be the answer to a lively spirit.)

Some things I try to do to keep myself up are:

accept changes as they come..investigate new things, like new trends in music, clothes, books, attitudes....be open to the wild and crazy.

try to eliminate the 'shoulds' in my life. Don't 'act your age' unless you want to.

try not to 'sweat the small stuff'.

try to mentally absorb what I consider 'beautiful' in my life and try to appreciate it.

try not to think or say things that are hurtful to others because nothing can bring down a good inner feeling more.

try to do something nice for someone else...nothing boosts my inner mood more....especially when done anonymously.

try to know that the past is done and cannot be altered....make the present better if you can, and leave the past behind. No grudges.

play with silly kittens and let them lick your face....even on the lips.
joshua
QUOTE(MusykLvr @ Oct 6 2005, 11:14 AM)
somehow, though, i think that the loving and laughing are the two most important things on that list.  and i hope to never lose that capacity.
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couldn't agree with you more. smile.gif
patrik
I'm still working on becoming "grown up at heart".

Patrik
coldteablues
QUOTE(Tonepoet77 @ Oct 6 2005, 10:17 AM)
So... how about you?  What keeps you a little young at heart?
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Living daily with 600+ college students! That will either keep you young at heart, or drive you over the cliff. Depends upon the day. smile.gif

Sometimes it's the little things such as:

Explaining to a resident the importance of keeping liners in her trash can. Amazing what kids DON'T know today. Just as amazing is what they DO know.

Offering to be "on duty" for a resident assistant so that she can participate in an all-night softball tourney and receiving the following note from her:

Cher -
Thank you so much for watching the building for me tonight! I had a blast! You are the greatest!!! You seriously made my week!!!!

THANKS,
Britany


Sharing my time with my dad on weekend trips or one day road trips. That time spent with him is irreplaceable and definately keeps me young at heart.

Cher
DJDelicious
QUOTE(Tonepoet77 @ Oct 6 2005, 10:17 AM)
So... how about you?  What keeps you a little young at heart?
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dating younger men!
michelle
I don't think I've ever actually thought about growing up.
I'm with Trudy on the physical/mental.
Completely different things.
I mean, every year I have this day where people celebrate and make note that I'm cueing up to add another year to my birth but I don't really care about age in my head.
I can do all the things I really want to do without a "Guardian".
Well, except get senior citizen discounts.
I've got my share of responsibilites and I'm quite good at taking care of them.
I'm also one of those people who are amused by all the little things going on around me.
And the stupid things, as long as they're funny.
My dad's just a big kid so I think some major hat-tipping needs to go in his direction for a lot of how I view/deal with stuff.

If you take care of what you're supposed to take care of when you're supposed to take care of it, then there's really no need to think about "growing up" at all. For me at least.

My motto for life*: Find the humor.


*borrowed from an old aquaintance many, many years ago.
Jeanne
QUOTE(michelle @ Oct 6 2005, 04:31 PM)
I don't think I've ever actually thought about growing up. 
I'm with Trudy on the physical/mental. 
Completely different things.
I mean, every year I have this day where people celebrate and make note that I'm cueing up to add another year to my birth but I don't really care about age in my head.
I can do all the things I really want to do without a "Guardian". 

...

My motto for life*:  Find the humor.


*borrowed from an old aquaintance many, many years ago.
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Were we separated at birth (by about 7 years and a month)? biggrin.gif

I don't feel like I'm supposed to be 41, but I don't really know how old I feel mentally. Physically on the other hand... laugh.gif

Humor is indeed vital. I'd rather spend my time laughing at the absurd than crying over it any day. And I get nervous looks from my co-workers when I chuckle over what appears to be nothing. (And that makes me chuckle even more.)
liberation party
I dress up in sparkly pink floofy dresses, don a tiara, and skip around in public places claiming to be a fairy princess. I convince young children, and it works. I feel happy and filled with youth.

Tiara collection now numbering: six.
michelle
QUOTE(Jeanne @ Oct 6 2005, 11:53 AM)
And I get nervous looks from my co-workers when I chuckle over what appears to be nothing. (And that makes me chuckle even more.)
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I do that all the time but my co-workers are my parents so the chuckles just get ignored a lot.

Apparently I get a "Muahaha!" look in my eyes and my freinds will sometimes call me out before I get to the chuckling stage. Do you find that too, Jeanne?

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Were we separated at birth (by about 7 years and a month)?  biggrin.gif


I was born at Kettering Memorial Hospital y'know... ph34r.gif
Jeanne
[quote=michelle,Oct 6 2005, 06:10 PM][quote=Jeanne,Oct 6 2005, 11:53 AM]And I get nervous looks from my co-workers when I chuckle over what appears to be nothing. (And that makes me chuckle even more.)
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I do that all the time but my co-workers are my parents so the chuckles just get ignored a lot.

Apparently I get a "Muahaha!" look in my eyes and my freinds will sometimes call me out before I get to the chuckling stage. Do you find that too, Jeanne?
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Sometimes. I also have terrible giggling fits sometimes that are almost impossible to stop.


[quote]Were we separated at birth (by about 7 years and a month)? biggrin.gif [/quote]I was born at Kettering Memorial Hospital y'know... ph34r.gif
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Ah, but I was born at St. Elizabeth's in downtown Dayton. I did go to Kettering's emergency room with my back trouble last March, though. ph34r.gif ph34r.gif
MusykLvr
QUOTE(Jeanne @ Oct 6 2005, 05:53 PM)
Humor is indeed vital. I'd rather spend my time laughing at the absurd than crying over it any day. And I get nervous looks from my co-workers when I chuckle over what appears to be nothing. (And that makes me chuckle even more.)
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i get funny looks from my co-workers, too, jeanne. i have had many a "grown-up" tell me how embaressed they were to be seen with me.

i also think that you have to find a good balance. because, you know, when you work with people, they expect you to be somewhat professional. and that's fine. i did a home visit today, and i hid my tattoos and i kept my mouth closed enough so that she couldn't see my tongue ring. and i can't dye my hair blue or green or pink.

every day i find some new way of keeping my youth. today, it's going to bed early so that i can rejuvinate. and tomorrow night, it'll be by going to the club and drinking lots of free beer. ph34r.gif

and janelle, i tried dating a younger man, and boy, did that not work out. be glad you found the one you did! smile.gif
keith from ny
I'll have attended over 30 concerts in 2005 (and I had to cancel a few), many quite a ways from here. Being a groupie works for me.

I love talking to our kids about what they think and what they're learning in school.

The Orchard Mix Club has definitely been keeping me young! (thanks, Dan)

Loving and laughing is real good stuff too. smile.gif
pulpexploder
Dating older women. (You know, so you can be the immature one in the relationship.)
MusykLvr
something else that is keeping me young at heart is my job.

working daily with the elderly is amazing. even my one consumer who is exceptionally bitter at the entire world is amazing to me. i walk into their homes, this bundle of youthful energy, and they light up when they see me...not because of who i am, but because i have come to talk to them, because i have come to listen, because they know that i care.

and caring, beyond all other things, will keep me young at heart forever. smile.gif
kab
i'm a pretty serious person. someone told me once i had an "old soul."

so how does someone born old stay young?!

i think that challenging my mind keeps me young... because it doesn't allow me to get stuck into thought patterns. i like to read stuff that ****s with my mind, you know? i haven't been able to do that so much the past 6 months, but the emotional shit i've put myself through has been plenty to keep my mind occupied.

and sometimes, i like to roll myself down hills. or just run for no reason, or twirl because i feel happy.
liberation party
QUOTE(kab @ Oct 8 2005, 06:18 PM)
and sometimes, i like to roll myself down hills. or just run for no reason, or twirl because i feel happy.
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Me too. smile.gif

And skip. And hop. And chase butterflies and bubbles. Yay, bubbles.
FloridaGirl
QUOTE(pulpexploder @ Oct 7 2005, 01:53 AM)
Dating older women. (You know, so you can be the immature one in the relationship.)
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When did dating younger women ever make you the mature one? wink.gif

I'm finding now that I took things way too damn seriously in college. It's occurred to me that I have a small window of time left in which I can do stupid, embarrassing, immature things without being judged too harshly, simply by virtue of the fact that I'm still a kid. (It does also help that I look 15. smile.gif) So I'm going to drive two hours to see concerts on weeknights, and flirt shamelessly with cute strangers, and buy clothes that border a little too close to trendy to be practical, before I run out of time to be acceptably ridiculous. Eventually, I'll think of something else, but this seems to work pretty well right now.
kab
today, i went to a small local park and took a walk to clear my head. there was a treehouse of sorts near the playground, and i climbed it. i got down via a pole. sliding down, i thought of this thread.

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WalrusOct9
I think being in a band gives you liscence to act 21 for as long as you want.
bivester
QUOTE(FloridaGirl @ Oct 9 2005, 02:40 PM)
It's occurred to me that I have a small window of time left in which I can do stupid, embarrassing, immature things without being judged too harshly, simply by virtue of the fact that I'm still a kid. (It does also help that I look 15. smile.gif) So I'm going to drive two hours to see concerts on weeknights, and flirt shamelessly with cute strangers, and buy clothes that border a little too close to trendy to be practical, before I run out of time to be acceptably ridiculous. Eventually, I'll think of something else, but this seems to work pretty well right now.
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not true becky, look at keith and i for example wink.gif we're old & we still do "stupid, embarrassing, immature things without being judged too harshly" and it still "seems to work pretty well right now". biggrin.gif
keith from ny
QUOTE(bivester @ Oct 9 2005, 06:45 PM)
QUOTE(FloridaGirl @ Oct 9 2005, 02:40 PM)
It's occurred to me that I have a small window of time left in which I can do stupid, embarrassing, immature things without being judged too harshly, simply by virtue of the fact that I'm still a kid. (It does also help that I look 15. smile.gif) So I'm going to drive two hours to see concerts on weeknights, and flirt shamelessly with cute strangers, and buy clothes that border a little too close to trendy to be practical, before I run out of time to be acceptably ridiculous. Eventually, I'll think of something else, but this seems to work pretty well right now.
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not true becky, look at keith and i for example. wink.gif we still do "stupid, embarrassing, immature things without being judged too harshly" and it still "seems to work pretty well right now". biggrin.gif
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Well no, my wife (and some other people in my life) thinks I'm insane actually, so I guess that amounts to being judged harshly. biggrin.gif The real key is not to worry about being judged, period.
Tonepoet77
QUOTE(WalrusOct9 @ Oct 9 2005, 04:31 PM)
I think being in a band gives you liscence to act 21 for as long as you want.
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I agree whole-heartedly with that. Me and my guitar are like 16 all over again. Add the beer, and you get 21!
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